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Creating a voice as a male sex abuse survivor.

Creating a voice as a male sex abuse survivor. Creating a voice as a male sex abuse survivor. Creating a voice as a male sex abuse survivor.

 "...survivors, like you sharing their truth is what is needed to educate people and put a stop to grooming and sexual abuse.

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(937) 241-7136

Creating a voice as a male sex abuse survivor.

Creating a voice as a male sex abuse survivor. Creating a voice as a male sex abuse survivor. Creating a voice as a male sex abuse survivor.

 "...survivors, like you sharing their truth is what is needed to educate people and put a stop to grooming and sexual abuse.

Reserve Now

(937) 241-7136

A Voice for the Voiceless

  John-Michael Lander created a Voice for the Voiceless.   

 Through writing, speaking, and consulting, he helps individuals and organizations identify the signs of grooming, manipulating, and stigmatizing of sexual abuse and how to help survivors (of any type of abuse) face the past and find their true self. 



About Me

Building Connections

Workshops and Keynotes

Building Connections

As a 14-year-old Olympic Bound Athlete, the adults entrusted with my training, groomed and trafficked me into silence, causing the most exciting time of my life to be filled with shame and guilt while I still went on to win gold medals at the Norway and Danish Cups. 

Through my experiences I developed the Predatory Grooming Trifecta© which demonstrates how the predator grooms the organization first, the parents second, and then the child, which allows the predator to go undetected for years. 

After publishing my books, Surface Tension and Cracked Surface, I dedicate myself to bringing my message to conferences around the world. Whether as a keynote speaker or a workshop leader, I break through the myths and boundaries of Predatory Grooming, Long-term Effects of Sexual Abuse, and Surviving. 

Webcasts

Workshops and Keynotes

Building Connections

As a certified Trainer and Life Coach with the Self-Talk Institution, I will speak with your team, organization, or school about the importance of changing how you think and the programs that we have created for oursleves. "If you can change your Self-Talk, you can change your Program. If you change your Program, you can change your Life."   Some of the programs available are: * Are Your Thoughts Killing You? 

* The Predatory Grooming Trifecta© 

*Change the Myths--Change your Life. 

Workshops and Keynotes

Workshops and Keynotes

Workshops and Keynotes

As a speaker and innovator, I will bring new life and connection to your next event. Contact me, and we can design a workshop or presentation that fits the needs that you have today.

As a certified Trainer and Coach for the Self-Talk Insitute I provide talks and workshops

for:

* Survivors

* Athletes

* Businesses

* Weight Loss

* Direct Marketing

* Personal Growth


I provide training and presentations:

* Predatory Grooming Trifecta©

* Predatory Internet Grooming© (PIG) and PIG Patrol©

* Male Trauma Bonding

* Locker Room Talk

* Are Your Thoughts Killing You

* Inflammation

* Long-Term Effects of Sexual Abuse 

* Positive Self Talk 

Additional Information

Embrace the Future

  

John-Michael battled with finding his true self and authentic voice. As an athlete, he endured sexual abuse from coaches, benefactors, and medical team which resulted in years of PTSD, depression, anxiety, and even suicide attempts. His research, The Grooming Trifecta, provides how grooming effects everyone no matter their sexual orientation, gender, or religious beliefs. 

Self-Talk with John-Michael Lander

  

 

Self-Talk with John-Michael Lander , where we can change our thoughts and change our lives. 

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more information:

  John-Michael Lander (johnmichaellander.com)  

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61555662292207 

 


Talk with John-Michael

Podcast

  

Guests:   

Bob Williams and Landon Dickeson

https://www.starstoledo.org/  


 February 26, 2026 @ 2pm EST  


FREE REGISTRATION:   Webinar Registration - Zoom  

  

SurvivorSpace: 

   

       

 Robert "Bob" Williams – Founder and CEO Bob Williams is the Founder and CEO of Ranch Hands Rescue. After suffering a stroke in  2007, Bob decided to retire from Motorola. After a year of rehabilitation, he decided to start  a not-for-profit organization that would save animals and help people. In 2008, Ranch  Hands Rescue was born, and a farm animal sanctuary for animals with special needs was  established. In 2010, the Ranch Hands Rescue Counseling Program was started. Bob's  vision was to partner abused and neglected animals with individuals by using Equine and  Animal Assisted Counseling in an effort to help individuals who don't respond to traditional  therapy. His counseling program is the only program in the country that partners abused  and neglected animals in mental health therapy. Bob's passion is helping innocent victims,  especially children, who require a nontraditional approach to uncovering severe trauma.  He assembled a team of counseling experts who are highly trained and certified in trauma  and PTSD to be another resource in our community to help individuals who are suffering  and see no hope.  RHR fills a special niche in mental health counseling services community in that we  specialize in treating the more complex trauma cases, such as victims of multiple abuses  by multiple perpetrators and people not making progress in their current treatment  programs.  Bob and Ranch Hands Rescue have been featured in over 220 TV and news stories  including Animal Planet, Time Magazine, Fox Worldwide News, USA Today, CNN, Good  Morning America and National Geographic. Bob recently announced plans to open the first  safe house for young men 18-24 who have been sex trafficked. Bob's House of Hope will be  the first in the country to do this.  Ranch Hands Rescue is currently working on a National Education Program to educate the  public that boys are sex trafficked too. Ranch Hands Rescue has 2 locations. One in Argyle, Texas and one in Denton, Texas and serves the entire Metroplex. Bobs personal story as a survivor of rape, addiction, homelessness, and his story of rebuilding his life along with his passion for helping others is why Ranch Hands Rescue continues to grow. 5 Time Emmy  Winner Doris Roberts said “He was one of the most incredible speakers I have ever heard,  his honesty and his passion is contagious. His journey needs to be heard by everyone who  has struggled with sexual abuse, rape, or addiction. I think he is amazing, and I am proud to  be his friend.”  


 Landon Dickeson, MS, LPC, C-DBT, is an accomplished mental health professional with over a decade of experience in the field. He serves as the Executive Director for Ranch Hands Rescue and Bob’s House of Hope. Landon has worked with thousands of trauma survivors, and this vast experience has driven his passion to create treatment programs for those with complex PTSD. Landon graduated from the University of North Texas with a Master of Science in Clinical Mental Health Counseling, after which he obtained state licensure as a Licensed Professional Counselor. Landon has experience working with high-risk youth, dual diagnosis, suicide loss, sexual assault/abuse trauma, Veteran trauma, and male victims of Commercial Sexual Exploitation (CSE). He has been trained in Crisis Intervention, Risk of Harm Assessment, EMDR, Equine and Animal Assisted Counseling, DBT, TBRI, TF-CBT, Psychological First Aid, and more. Landon’s passion for education led him to create several trainings to increase understanding of complex trauma, sex trafficking, and overlooked populations. His speaking engagements have included the JuST Conference, TNOYS Conference, DFPS Conference, Humanymal International Conference, numerous webinars, local events, and news stories. Landon also helped launch the first state- and nationwide billboard campaign, called #BoysToo, to educate the public about the sex trafficking of males. After years of treating sexual abuse and trafficking victims, Landon helped create the first safe house program in the country for male victims of sex trafficking, Bob’s House of Hope. 


 

Listen to other Guests:     

https://anathletessilence.com/talk-with-john-michael 

Elesandra DeRomano

Ashmeeta Madhav 

Cathy Studer

Lily Sanders Tese

Mary Jo Ross 

Michael Skinner 

Gina Cavallo 

Becky Perkins 

John-Michael Lander (Flipping the Script)

Cheryl Hunter 

Ronald Howie

Dr. Kelli Palfy

Ena Lucia Mariaca Pacheco 

Steven Procopio

Keri Carter

Dale Lykins

Lori Klens

Amy B. Chesler

John Callas

Dr. Viktor Paul Giangrasso


Upcoming Speaking Engagements

Conversations with Survivors: A Reunion of Hope

 Date: Tursday, March 19, 2026

3:00 - 4:30 pm EST


SurvivorSpace.org:  Conversations with Survivors: A Reunion of Hope - Survivor Space 


FREE REGISTRATION:  Webinar Registration - Zoom

 Three survivors reunite two years after filming a candid conversation about their experiences. What is their message for survivors today? 

  

 In 2024, three adult survivors on different paths and from different states gathered in-person for an unscripted conversation about their survivorship. Their candid reflections resulted in a unique resource called “Conversations with Survivors,” an 8-minute video that powerfully captures the essence of struggle, survival, and hope. Now, these amazing survivors – Wendy, Melanie, and John-Michael – are reuniting virtually to talk about their experience being part of this video project, how their lives have changed in the past two years, their thoughts on survivor leadership, and their hopes for their future and for all survivors. Join us for this powerful conversation! 


Presenters:

 Melanie Sachs Barton, Wendy Jensen, and John-Michael Lander: 


31:8 Project: Human Trafficking Awareness

 Date: May 19-20, 2026; Bismark, ND



 31:8 Project - North Dakota Human Trafficking Education - 31:8 Project 


 Human trafficking is a hidden crisis that can touch any community. At 31:8 Project, our mission is to equip and challenge society to proactively address this urgent issue. As a community-driven nonprofit, we empower people to recognize and respond by educating, advocating, and raising awareness through dynamic workshops, regional summits, and customized presentations. We also walk alongside survivors, amplifying their strength through our Survivor Mentorship program, and bring comfort and hope to at-risk youth with Bravery Backpacks filled with necessities – addressing the immediate physical and emotional needs of children rescued from harm. Everyone has a role to play: join us in this mission. Contact 31:8 Project today to learn more or schedule a customized presentation, and help build a community where dignity, hope, and freedom prevail. 


Ohio athlete’s Olympic dreams shattered after he says traine

December 19, 2024, at the Metro Park Pavillion, Toledo, Ohio

True Crime & Hollywood

Flipping the Script with John-Michael Lander & Celene Beth Olsen - True Crime & Hollywood: A Personal Tale | Podcast on Spotify

   

I flipped the script and interviewed Celene Beth Oslen on her podcast. 



Article for SurvivorSpace.org

  

The Impact of Common Phrases and Jargon in Supporting Survivors of Sexual Abuse and Trafficking

  

https://survivorspace.shorthandstories.com/common-phrases/index.html 


 Gina Cavallo: “I hear this a lot and it’s without question upsetting and probably more so when I hear, ‘It wasn’t your fault.’ During another situation, I was told, ‘Well, you can’t blame yourself for the choices you made back then.’ REALLY!!!” 

Recent Interviews

HOUSE TALK PREGAME w/Dr. Lauren Pitts & Ronnie Ransome, Jr. - Season 4 Episode 131

  

 

Streamed live on Sep 2, 2023 HOUSE TALK PREGAME w/Dr. Lauren Pitts & Ronnie Ransome, Jr.


PREDATORY GROOMING IN SPORTS! Guest(s): John-Michael Lander  Overtime, the inappropriate comes to feel normal. Grooming and abuse can occur at any level in any sport, whether that's with amateur players or elite athletes. Although most people think of children as being groomed, anyone at any age can be a victim of grooming. It’s Episode 131 on HT and you don’t want to miss a powerful and information packed lineup with Hosts – Sports Family Therapist Dr. Lauren Pitts and former Scholar-Athlete & Licensed Professional Counselor, Ronnie Ransome, Jr., with special guest former Olympic diving contender and sexual abuse survivor – John Michael Lander. Tune in to hear the HT Pregame discussion Saturday, September 2, 2023, at 11 am on YouTube, Facebook, Apple Podcast and Spotify! Don’t forget to subscribe to our YouTube channel in case you miss us live! 


 (273) HOUSE TALK PREGAME w/Dr. Lauren Pitts & Ronnie Ransome, Jr. - Season 4 Episode 131 - YouTube 


14 Year-Old Athlete’s Life Shattered Survivor John-Michael Lander

  

 Survivor's Stories with Shawn Attwood


 (273) 14 Year-Old Athlete’s Life Shattered Survivor John-Michael Lander - YouTube  

John-Michael Lander: An Athlete's Silence

What Came Next with Amy B. Chesler

 Amy B. Chesler
Author • Podcaster • Advocate
http://amybchesler.com
http://www.facebook.com/amybchesler
http://www.amazon.com/author/ABChesler
http://www.linkedin.com/in/amy-chesler
IG: @amybchesler • Twitter: @amybchesler
Working for Justice: https://amzn.to/3sa50Gf
What Came Next: 
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/what-came-next/id1674051643 

TIME

Congress Re-Introduces Bill to Protect Kids From Online Sexual Abuse. Here’s What to Know

 

BY SOLCYRE BURGA

APRIL 23, 2023 2:40 PM EDT 

I was quoted in this article. 

 Congress Re-Introduces to Fight Online Child Sexual Abuse | Time 


SurvivorsSpace.org

 I have the honor to contribute the following content to     

SurvivorSpace SurvivorSpace - A Safe Place for Survivors of Sexual Abuse to Heal


Videos: 

· John-Michael Lander’s Story 

John-Michael's Story - Survivor Space 

(81) SurvivorSpace: John-Michael Lander's Story - YouTube


· Predatory Internet Grooming

What is Predatory Internet Grooming? - Survivor Space

(81) SurvivorSpace: Predatory Internet Grooming (John-Michael Lander) - YouTube 


· Male Trauma Bonding 

What is Male Trauma Bonding? - Survivor Space

(81) SurvivorSpace: Male Trauma Bonding (John-Michael Lander) - YouTube 


· The Challenge of Forgiveness 

The Challenges of Forgiveness - Survivor Space

(87) SurvivorSpace: The Challenges of Forgiveness (John-Michael Lander) - YouTube


Articles:

· Breaking the Mirror: Understanding and Overcoming Male Body Dysmorphic Disorder--with Dr.   Viktor Paul Giangrasso    

   https://survivorspace.shorthandstories.com/breaking-the-mirror/index.html

 

· The Impact of Common Phrases and Jargon in Supporting Survivors of Sexual Abuse and Trafficking  

   https://survivorspace.shorthandstories.com/common-phrases/index.html 


· Thought vs. Thinking:  A Journey into the Depths of Self-Understanding  

   https://survivorspace.shorthandstories.com/thoughts-vs-thinking/index.html 


· Stained Victory  

   https://survivorspace.shorthandstories.com/stained-victory/index.html 


· Fear Causes Closed Mindedness    

   https://survivorspace.shorthandstories.com/fear-causes-closed-mindedness/index.html 


· Self-Revictimization 

    https://survivorspace.shorthandstories.com/self-revictimization/index.html 


· Owning Your Story 

  Owning Your Story (shorthandstories.com) 


· Who Are We?

 Who Are We? (shorthandstories.com) 


· To Tell or Not to Tell: That is the Question

 To Tell or Not to Tell: That is the Question (shorthandstories.com) 


· Therapy: Each survivor’s experience is unique, and so is their healing journey

Therapy (shorthandstories.com)

https://survivorspace.shorthandstories.com/therapy/index.html 


· “Forgiveness”

Forgiveness (shorthandstories.com)

 

· “Pets & Sexual Abuse Survival” 

Pets & Sexual Abuse Survivors (shorthandstories.com)


· “Survivors’ Long-Term Effects of Inflammation due to Negative Self-Talk”

Survivors’ Long-Term Effects of Inflammation due to Negative Self-Talk (shorthandstories.com)


· “Male Trauma Bonding”

Male Trauma Bonding (shorthandstories.com)


· “Child Sexual Abuse, Gender Identity, and Sexual Orientation Crisis for Males”

Child Sexual Abuse, Gender Identity, and Sexual Orientation Crisis for Males (shorthandstories.com)


· “Predatory Grooming Trifecta”

 The Predatory Grooming Trifecta© (shorthandstories.com) 


· Dysregulation & Male Survivors 

Dysregulation & Male Survivors (shorthandstories.com) 


· Dissociation & Male Survivors 

Dissociation & Male Survivors (shorthandstories.com)


· My Story

My Story (shorthandstories.com) 


· Predatory Internet Grooming 

Predatory Internet Grooming (shorthandstories.com)


· Why Men Don’t Report Sexual Abuse: One Survivor’s Perspective 

Why Men Don't Report Sexual Abuse (shorthandstories.com)


· Survivor’s Long-Term Effects of Inflammation due to Negative Self-Talk

Survivors’ Long-Term Effects of Inflammation due to Negative Self-Talk (shorthandstories.com)

Short Documentary created by Barbara McCabe

A short documentary by award winning director, Barbara McCabe

                                

                 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G4KxcHettQ0                                    

 

        This short documentary was created by the award winning director,  Barbara McCabe for the Cheryl Hunter Group cherylhunter.com   


NBC 4 Columbus with Cyn Rossi

John-Michael Lander met with NBC4 to talk about how parents are the only line of defense for a child athlete. He explained lies predators will tell parents and coaches, and crucial decisions parents face as they weigh their child's specialness against red-flag warnings.


                                         https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sr_QKjwlNKo

Speaker One Sheet Front

  



Speaker One Sheet Back

  


August 1, 2020: Cracked Surface, book two of the Surface Series is NOW available

 https://www.amazon.com/Cracked-Surface-John-Michael-Lander/dp/0578686589/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1MOZEY6YO8OPZ&dchild=1&keywords=john-michael+lander+cracked+surface&qid=1596379177&s=books&sprefix=John-Michael+Lander+cracked%2Cstripbooks%2C663&sr=1-1 

 https://www.amazon.com/Surface-Tension-John-Michael-Lander/dp/1635685915/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=John-Michael+Lander+surface+tension&qid=1596379045&s=books&sr=1-1 

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