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Breaking the Myths of Predatory Grooming and Sexual Abuse

"...survivors, like you sharing their truth is what is needed to educate people and put a stop to grooming and sexual abuse."

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(937) 241-7136

Breaking the Myths of Predatory Grooming and Sexual Abuse

"...survivors, like you sharing their truth is what is needed to educate people and put a stop to grooming and sexual abuse."

Reserve Now

(937) 241-7136

A Voice for the Voiceless

John-Michael Lander created a Voice for the Voiceless.

Through writing, speaking, and consulting, he helps individuals and organizations identify the signs of grooming, manipulating, and stigmatizing of sexual abuse and how to help survivors (of any type of abuse) face the past and find their true self.

About Me

Building Connections

Workshops and Keynotes

Building Connections

As a 14-year-old Olympic Bound Athlete, the adults entrusted with my training, groomed and trafficked me into silence, causing the most exciting time of my life to be filled with shame and guilt while I still went on to win gold medals at the Norway and Danish Cups.

Through my experiences I developed the Predatory Grooming Trifecta© which demonstrates how the predator grooms the organization first, the parents second, and then the child, which allows the predator to go undetected for years.

After publishing my books, Surface Tension and Cracked Surface, I dedicate myself to bringing my message to conferences around the world. Whether as a keynote speaker or a workshop leader, I break through the myths and boundaries of Predatory Grooming, Long-term Effects of Sexual Abuse, and Surviving.

Webcasts

Workshops and Keynotes

Building Connections

As a certified Trainer and Life Coach with the Self-Talk Institution, I will speak with your team, organization, or school about the importance of changing how you think and the programs that we have created for oursleves. "If you can change your Self-Talk, you can change your Program. If you change your Program, you can change your Life." Some of the programs available are: * Are Your Thoughts Killing You?

* The Predatory Grooming Trifecta©

*Change the Myths--Change your Life.

Workshops and Keynotes

As a speaker and innovator, I will bring new life and connection to your next event. Contact me, and we can design a workshop or presentation that fits the needs that you have today.

As a certified Trainer and Coach for the Self-Talk Insitute I provide talks and workshops

for:

* Survivors

* Athletes

* Businesses

* Weight Loss

* Direct Marketing

* Personal Growth

I provide training and presentations:

* Predatory Grooming Trifecta©

* Male Trauma Bonding

* Locker Room Talk

* Are Your Thoughts Killing You

* Inflammation

* Long-Term Effects of Sexual Abuse

* Positive Self Talk

Presentations

Embrace the Future

John-Michael battled with finding his true self and authentic voice. As an athlete, he endured sexual abuse from coaches, benefactors, and medical team which resulted in years of PTSD, depression, anxiety, and even suicide attempts. His research, The Grooming Trifecta, provides how grooming effects everyone no matter their sexual orientation, gender, or religious beliefs.

Recent Interviews

HOUSE TALK PREGAME w/Dr. Lauren Pitts & Ronnie Ransome, Jr. - Season 4 Episode 131

Streamed live on Sep 2, 2023 HOUSE TALK PREGAME w/Dr. Lauren Pitts & Ronnie Ransome, Jr.

PREDATORY GROOMING IN SPORTS! Guest(s): John-Michael Lander Overtime, the inappropriate comes to feel normal. Grooming and abuse can occur at any level in any sport, whether that's with amateur players or elite athletes. Although most people think of children as being groomed, anyone at any age can be a victim of grooming. It’s Episode 131 on HT and you don’t want to miss a powerful and information packed lineup with Hosts – Sports Family Therapist Dr. Lauren Pitts and former Scholar-Athlete & Licensed Professional Counselor, Ronnie Ransome, Jr., with special guest former Olympic diving contender and sexual abuse survivor – John Michael Lander. Tune in to hear the HT Pregame discussion Saturday, September 2, 2023, at 11 am on YouTube, Facebook, Apple Podcast and Spotify! Don’t forget to subscribe to our YouTube channel in case you miss us live!

(273) HOUSE TALK PREGAME w/Dr. Lauren Pitts & Ronnie Ransome, Jr. - Season 4 Episode 131 - YouTube

14 Year-Old Athlete’s Life Shattered Survivor John-Michael Lander

Survivor's Stories with Shawn Attwood

(273) 14 Year-Old Athlete’s Life Shattered Survivor John-Michael Lander - YouTube

by Max Filby Columbus Dispatch USA Today Network, Photo by Courtney Hergesheimer https://www.dispatch.com/story/news/education/2023/08/06/strauss-victim-3-ohio-state-students-worked-to-change-medical-school/70357734007/

Help Stop Online Predators

The FBI issued a warning about a global financial sextortion crisis with an increase in incidents of boys under 18 (Feb. 2023).

I devised Predatory Internet Grooming (PIG), so the general public can comprehend the issues of this online epidemic. PIG demonstrates the ugliness and cunningness of how the predators prey on the innocence of children on the internet to convince the child to share explicit photos and videos.

According to Benoliel and Becher (2019) 99% of online terms and conditions were written in language too complex for children to understand.

According to the FBI, as many as 500,000 predators pose a threat by attempting to contact children daily on the internet.
Children ages 12-15 are the most significant targeted demographic, with the increase in boys.
Only 15% of parents know what their children are doing online.

Learn what parents can do to help

1. Talk with your child to see what sites they are visiting and if they are participating in chatrooms, games, and other social media communications. Remember it is not the child’s fault.

2. Talk with your child about Predatory Internet Grooming (PIG) and Financial Sextortion.

3. How to get help through the FBI at 1-800-CALL-FBI or report the crime online at tips.fbi.gov.

It is NOT the child's fault.

Meet John-Michael Lander

CavasRebel recently connected with John-Michael Lander and have shared our conversation below.

Meet John-Michael Lander - CanvasRebel Magazine

HANDING THE SHAME BACK

Hand The Shame Back with Gloria Masters in New Zealand: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JMGcf28Tou4

Gloria Masters
Author & Speaker

https://gloriamasters.com/

A simple Hand signal A way for children to show they are being abused/not safe.

(229) HTSB HAND Signal for Under 16’s - YouTube

This is for children to use who are being abused and not safe.
It is simple and clear to follow. It is a 3-step method as shown in the video.

1. Open palm.

2. Place thumb across palm.

3.Close the hand to make a fist.

If you/another adult sees this, do something to protect the child. This may involve getting another adult involved, phoning authorities, taking number plate of vehicle, taking photos and/or recording the people around the child, and so on.

John-Michael Lander: An Athlete's Silence

What Came Next with Amy B. Chesler

Amy B. Chesler
Author • Podcaster • Advocate
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What Came Next:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/what-came-next/id1674051643

How Grooming is Done by Professional Predators

Beyond The Current Situation with Lily Sanders

TIME

Congress Re-Introduces Bill to Protect Kids From Online Sexual Abuse. Here’s What to Know

BY SOLCYRE BURGA

APRIL 23, 2023 2:40 PM EDT

I was quoted in this article.

Congress Re-Introduces to Fight Online Child Sexual Abuse | Time

I appeared on KOIN NEWS AM EXTRA, 01/31/2023

Former Olympic athlete, survivor on breaking the silence of abuse

by: Michaela Bourgeois, Emily Burris, Ken Boddie

Posted: Jan 31, 2023 / 09:30 AM PST

Updated: Jan 31, 2023 / 09:30 AM PST

https://www.koin.com/news/health/former-olympic-athlete-survivor-on-breaking-the-silence-of-abuse/

Spectrum News 1

John-Michael Lander survived human trafficking while going on to win gold medals at the Norway and Danish Cups.

Ex-Olympic bound athlete survived human trafficking, shares story, by Aliah Keller

Ex-Olympic bound athlete survived human trafficking (spectrumnews1.com)

Short Documentary created by Barbara McCabe

A short documentary by award winning director, Barbara McCabe

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G4KxcHettQ0

This short documentary was created by the award winning director, Barbara McCabe for the Cheryl Hunter Group cherylhunter.com

NBC 4 Columbus with Cyn Rossi

John-Michael Lander met with NBC4 to talk about how parents are the only line of defense for a child athlete. He explained lies predators will tell parents and coaches, and crucial decisions parents face as they weigh their child's specialness against red-flag warnings.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sr_QKjwlNKo